This is a comment by ogwriter on the post “Breaking News from Fox columnist: Women aren’t Women Anymore“.
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Alice originally said:
“Men aren’t going to be as interested in marriage because they get everything they want outside of marriage. I think ‘shacking up’ is the new marriage for men. Guys want someone to move in, have sex with them, cook and clean for them, who can be thrown up pretty easily. In all fairness, is there not a group of men who complain that American women are too masculine (and that’s why they marry foreign women)?”
ogwriter wrote:
“”I agree with you that men have figured out that they can get what they need without getting married, but probably for different reasons than yours. The belief that men only want a woman that will clean for him, cook for him, etc, is a bit 1950′s.
“I think that especially on this site men have very clearly articulated, with respect and deference to the feelings of women, some significant problems that need to be addressed along side issues that women have about men. The mistake in reducing this problem to one of sexuality or the desire for men to have sex, and have someone wait on them is somewhat regressive and ignores the voices of men who are saying something different altogether.
“Additionally, this line of reasoning reduces men to the value of a mere sex object. Your point of view also fails to acknowledge that women are different and many of them don’t want to get married either. Most divorces are initiated by women, especially older women. Why no complaints about that? Women have been saying for 40 years now, that they don’t need men, right? Women openly discuss whether men are even necessary. So, considering the aforementioned, if women actually want men, I would think that some might understand if that message seems vague and ambiguous and why some men are confused and exhausted in trying to figure to out what is real. That confusion and exhaustion is manifest in a reluctance to get too involved.”
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